Bea Lewis

Whenever I present a program on parent/adult child relationships, I learn  from the members of the audience about the problems they are facing, the difficulties they are feeling. Sometimes members will tell the audience  how they resolved these issues and thus begins a sharing of ideas which often takes them talking well after they leave the meeting hall.  

At  a recent Hadassah meeting at Majestic Isles community in Boynton Beach, an attractive, well-spoken mother of two, told the group how she learned  never to talk about one daughter to another.  

The woman said she learned the hard way; you know, how, with good intentions, you tell one child about another child's problems, hoping they will be of help. But it boomeranged, the mother said.  "My daughter found out I was talking to her sister about her problems.'' 

Shortly after, the woman explained, her daughter called to say she had lost trust in her and would no longer share her problems with her.  
 

" What I tell you is for your ears only,'' said the daughter, and with that she hung up the phone.

 " It took time for my daughter to talk to me again,'' said the woman who now  makes sure to keep whatever she is told  under her hat - after all, hats can blow off in the wind!